Can My Deceased Loved One See Me in the Shower and Bedroom?

Also answering if our loved ones in spirit get jealous when we find new love.

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My wife, Melissa, recently gave me tickets to see medium John Edward at a public demonstration of mediumship. I hadn’t seen John since 2014 when he so kindly announced his appreciation for my book, Answers About the Afterlife, to the audience. My book had just been released, so I was surprised he was even aware of it, never mind read it.

One thing I noted during John’s event last week was that the questions from the audience were quite simple and fundamental, which I noticed because my articles tend to go deeper. It made me think that I should add what I might consider basic questions into the mix instead of always answering the bigger afterlife questions, as I do in my articles about suicide, hell, and religion that I’ve covered on Bob Olson Connect.

One question that was asked at this event was whether our loved ones in spirit can see us in the shower. Another person asked a similar question about the bedroom. So I thought I’d tackle this subject today.

It’s ironic that most of us take comfort in knowing that our deceased loved ones are aware of all that is happening in our lives until we think about them being in the bedroom or bathroom. She can’t see me in the shower, can she? Can he see me in the bedroom with my new boyfriend? Suddenly, we’re wishing there was an ethereal curtain we could pull to ensure our privacy.

In fact, Melissa asked me this same question early in my investigation into the afterlife. We had just spent a long day with five mediums where we met with them to attend a two-hour medium demonstration together. One was a respected teacher of other mediums from England and another was a celebrated spirit artist (a medium who draws the spirits she sees) who I met for the first time that day. The other three were students of these teachers, mediums with only a few years’ experience. After the event, we enjoyed a three-hour lunch together where the five mediums told stories, answered my ceaseless questions, and we all laughed until our bellies ached. Mediums can be a fun bunch.

Since Melissa and I had spent the day steeped in compelling evidence that our consciousness survives death, Melissa told me on the drive home that she was now wondering if her deceased loved ones could see her in the shower. I chuckled at first, then I got to thinking about it and became somewhat troubled by the idea myself.

Melissa asked me this remarkably common question two years into my new calling as an afterlife investigator, so I’ve written this article to share with you what I’ve learned about the answer in the subsequent twenty-four years of my investigation into life after death.

The Shower Question

Let me address this head-on. Yes, our loved ones can see everything we do, even in the shower. That being true, they have no interests of a physical nature now that they are in spirit, and they’re fully respectful of our privacy.

Keep in mind that people in spirit have about as much interest in watching you run around naked as you do watching your cat or dog run around naked—in other words, none. People in spirit no longer have any attachment to the flesh, which simply means they are not aroused by seeing us naked.

The Toilet Question

I have also been asked, usually after someone at a gathering coaxes me off to the side, if our loved ones in spirit can see us on the toilet. Whenever I’m asked this question, I can’t help but see images in my head of pet owners watching their dog doing a jobbie. It seems rude, doesn’t it? Yet most dog owners can’t help but stare. One might think, give the poor dog some privacy. As an owner of two dogs right now, I catch myself doing this as well, but it’s to make sure the stool is healthy.

Spirits want to watch you on the toilet about as much as they want to see you sneeze. There’s really nothing in it for them, although they too might be happy if your stool is healthy.

The Bedroom Question

Perhaps even more important than showers or toilets, some people are concerned that their deceased husband or wife might see them in the bedroom with their new lover. It’s fully understandable why that would be an unsettling situation. What you want to keep in mind is that people in spirit have no desire to watch us do the hokey pokey. They know you have a lover. There’s no avoiding that. But they aren’t going to be watching you in the bedroom with high-powered binoculars.

Spirits have no desire to watch you because they gain no benefit from it. To have no physical body means to have no physical arousal. So that brings us to the final question on some people’s minds: Might they watch us in the bedroom out of jealousy?

People on the other side always want their spouses to move on and find love again. They don’t feel jealous when you find new love. Jealousy is a human emotion based on fear of abandonment and losing the love and attention of another. Spirits want you to love and be loved during your lifetime. They know that you loving another does not diminish your love for them. Rather than feel threatened by your new relationship, your deceased spouse or lover is going to be happy that you have someone with whom to express your love both physically and emotionally.

The Privacy Question

If it will make you feel any better, people in spirit abide by our requests. Feel free to tell your deceased loved ones in spirit that you don’t want them to see you in awkward situations. Be as specific as you wish. You can specify to them where they are not invited. Just be sure to give these instructions to your deceased loved ones and not yourspirit guides just in case you slip in the shower and need some help. There’s nothing handier than a competent spirit guide creating coincidences and miracles for your rescue. So give spirit guides full reign while giving loved ones in spirit the boundaries that you set.

Final Thoughts

If you’ve been reading my articles, you might be aware that these answers are often backed up by several areas of evidence, the most compelling being near-death experiences, readings with mediums, and past-life as well as life-between-lives regressions. For this question, though, the bulk of the evidence comes from medium demonstrations like the one Melissa and I attended recently with John Edward.

A medium demonstration is a public event where one or more mediums give random readings to people in the audience. In a typical two-hour event, a medium might give fifteen to twenty readings. In the past twenty-six years, I’ve attended dozens of medium demos, meaning I’ve witnessed hundreds of other people’s readings. And in all the readings over all those years, these questions I’ve addressed in this article have come up a lot.

During these events, the answers from the spirits who came through always—without exception—supported the answers I’ve provided here. In fact, without the question even being asked by an audience member, spirits have told their loved ones in these readings that they are delighted they’re seeing someone new or have remarried. Given that many spouses feel a sense of guilt for moving on in their life romantically, this is always a welcomed and appreciated message that often stirs up tears of relief.

What I love about fundamental questions is that they’re so straightforward in their focus, yet they also teach us about life after death in general. Here we’ve discussed specific questions about our privacy with spirits in the bathroom and bedroom, but we’ve also learned that spirits don’t feel jealousy or physical arousal. Even the simple questions about the afterlife lead to a depth of insight.

I hope this article gave you a new perspective that you hadn’t yet considered. As always, I would love to hear from you in the comments.

With love in my heart, I wish you a joyful and peaceful day,
Bob

Bob Olson is the host of Afterlife TV, author of two books, Answers About The Afterlife and The Magic Mala, and creator of the directory of psychics and mediums, BestPsychicDirectory.com. His newest venture is Bob Olson Connect, where you can read Bob’s articles before they become books.

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