Cremation or Burial: We Never Discussed It. Did I Make the Right Choice?
How do I know if my loved one in spirit wanted me to bury, cremate, or even keep his ashes at home or spread them somewhere?
When I was younger, my grandmother enthusiastically told me, “I purchased some real estate today!” She had never owned a home, so I was really happy for her. Then she told me the real estate she purchased was a cemetery plot. She was so proud of herself for doing it. She also planned and paid for her funeral services, removing that burden from her five children.
My grandmother’s actions in this regard motivated me to talk with Melissa and close friends about questions that arise when we’re dying or have died. Unfortunately, many people die unexpectedly, so they don’t have time to think about whether they might want to be cremated or buried. Even if they had thought about it themselves, they might not have shared these thoughts with anyone else. This can burden their surviving loved ones because they aren’t sure which decisions to make for them.
This gets even more complicated when surviving loved ones decide on cremation or burial. If they chose burial, where do they bury the body? Cemetery plots are expensive, and which cemetery did they want to spend eternity in? If they chose cremation, now they must decide what to do with the ashes. How might the deceased feel about burying the ashes in a cemetery, spreading them in the ocean or on a mountain, or splitting them up so they are scattered among several people?
Consequently, many have worried they made choices their deceased loved one might not have wanted. I’ve written this article to help people deal with these concerns. My answers are based on various areas of evidence, particularly readings with mediums, spirit contact during hypnosis, dream visitations, and near-death experiences.