That's an insightful recognition, Janet, and it's true for many people. I can't help but wonder what societal belief created this mindset and where it was born. It's also the reason I felt it was important to teach young people. Thanks for your response.
Aloha, Bob, Awesome! I wasn't in the business world.. I cleaned other people's homes and had a few women helping me. After a heart attack in 2015 I had to retire...now WHAT? Any way in 2019 I coauthor my book . Remember ME How to Create A Spiritual Legacy of Love & Life got it published 2021. Hoping this book would help others. What do I do now? Not much but when I go out I smile and remind everyone I meet how AWESOME & and MAGNIFICENT there are!! I have a hard time asking for any help but when I do I always give a little tip... smile money. How ever I can!? Thanks! Love you, sharing with US, and willing to let US ME share comment back! Happy Day where every you are.
Aloha, Alisa! I'm in Maine, probably about 5,000 miles from Hawaii. You must have a lot of friends. Everyone wants to be reminded of how awesome and magnificent they are. It sounds to me like you spread love and cheer wherever you go. That's a wonderful legacy. While you say you have difficulty asking for help, you're a great example of people who like giving it. Thank you for writing! I send you love and happiness from the northeast corner of the US.
Hi Bob, lots of good content here. I always appreciate how you use these principles in your own life.
Regarding asking for help, when I entered the business world in my mid-40's, I was working with much younger people. I found myself asking for help frequently for job-related tasks. After a long while, I realized that it is best to try to figure out things first on one's own, maybe taking notes which for me is helpful. Then when you ask, you can preface it by saying, "I tried this and this and this but haven't figured it out yet. What am I not seeing here?" That lets the person asked know that you have made some effort and don't expect them to walk you through it all from beginning to end.
In another context, when I am at the grocery store and can't reach something, I always look around for another customer who is taller and say, "Excuse me, would you mind rgetting that down for me?" I have never met anyone who wasn't pleased to do that with a smile and/or an encouraging reply.
In this current culture, there is a strong atmosphere of fear and divisiveness. Anytime we can bridge the gap between ourselves and one or more other human beings, we are lessening those negative influences and allowing others to open more and relax.
Hi Shalini, These are excellent additions! Some people ask before trying things themselves, which can imply an expectation of letting others do the work for them. By the fifth question, it gets old. Showing you've attempted to learn on your own before asking for help is always appreciated. And your perspective that asking for help as a way of connecting with others is wise. Thanks for sharing these valuable examples from your own life. It's easier to apply the material when there are real-life examples.
I’ve learned is that it’s easier for me to ask for help for someone else than to ask for help for myself.
That's an insightful recognition, Janet, and it's true for many people. I can't help but wonder what societal belief created this mindset and where it was born. It's also the reason I felt it was important to teach young people. Thanks for your response.
Aloha, Bob, Awesome! I wasn't in the business world.. I cleaned other people's homes and had a few women helping me. After a heart attack in 2015 I had to retire...now WHAT? Any way in 2019 I coauthor my book . Remember ME How to Create A Spiritual Legacy of Love & Life got it published 2021. Hoping this book would help others. What do I do now? Not much but when I go out I smile and remind everyone I meet how AWESOME & and MAGNIFICENT there are!! I have a hard time asking for any help but when I do I always give a little tip... smile money. How ever I can!? Thanks! Love you, sharing with US, and willing to let US ME share comment back! Happy Day where every you are.
Aloha, Alisa! I'm in Maine, probably about 5,000 miles from Hawaii. You must have a lot of friends. Everyone wants to be reminded of how awesome and magnificent they are. It sounds to me like you spread love and cheer wherever you go. That's a wonderful legacy. While you say you have difficulty asking for help, you're a great example of people who like giving it. Thank you for writing! I send you love and happiness from the northeast corner of the US.
Hi Bob, lots of good content here. I always appreciate how you use these principles in your own life.
Regarding asking for help, when I entered the business world in my mid-40's, I was working with much younger people. I found myself asking for help frequently for job-related tasks. After a long while, I realized that it is best to try to figure out things first on one's own, maybe taking notes which for me is helpful. Then when you ask, you can preface it by saying, "I tried this and this and this but haven't figured it out yet. What am I not seeing here?" That lets the person asked know that you have made some effort and don't expect them to walk you through it all from beginning to end.
In another context, when I am at the grocery store and can't reach something, I always look around for another customer who is taller and say, "Excuse me, would you mind rgetting that down for me?" I have never met anyone who wasn't pleased to do that with a smile and/or an encouraging reply.
In this current culture, there is a strong atmosphere of fear and divisiveness. Anytime we can bridge the gap between ourselves and one or more other human beings, we are lessening those negative influences and allowing others to open more and relax.
Hi Shalini, These are excellent additions! Some people ask before trying things themselves, which can imply an expectation of letting others do the work for them. By the fifth question, it gets old. Showing you've attempted to learn on your own before asking for help is always appreciated. And your perspective that asking for help as a way of connecting with others is wise. Thanks for sharing these valuable examples from your own life. It's easier to apply the material when there are real-life examples.
Hey Bob...
Enjoyed the three topics, particularly this last one. Thanks!
Thanks for letting me know, Gene! Grateful.