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I’ve performed many a Dorky things, too. So, I can appreciate your story. In my situation it’s ADHD. It’s gotten much better as I age. it was frustrating for my mom, I’m sure. ADHD was not identified back then. I was labeled as a bad little boy.

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Eugene Okamoto. I also have ADHD and my Adult Son does too! Yes, my parents were told, I was lazy, I did not pay attention, etc. I went on to become an Elementary Teacher for 32 years! I helped many Students and got them the help they needed.

My Son has an important job in a Civilian Government Position as a Logistician! Because he was identified as a Student with ADHD and received specialized help even in college. He is on medication which keeps him on task as he helps people to get what they need to build submarines.

Thank you for sharing your story! I am nearing 80. There are many of us out there who were not identified and called bad students!

Sending Love ❤️ your way!

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I'm glad you shared, Elaine. Thank you.

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Hey Eugene, I appreciate that. What you say about ADHD is so true. I have a dear friend with it who was labeled a bad student in ways that even today makes him think of himself as not smart, when in reality he's brilliant. Many with ADHD are brilliant. That said, I have no excuse for my dorky mistakes. 😄

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This story was a great reminder and so funny. And reminded me of the time I was at the gym. I was happily watching a movie on the elliptical with my earbuds in and suddenly panicked, wondering where my phone was. I checked my pockets, I checked my gym bag and then I realized, I was watching the movie ON MY PHONE! Oy, I felt pretty dumb for a second LOL!

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Hi Jen, such a great example! This is life, isn't it? I think one of the greatest responses is our ability to laugh at ourselves in these moments, which you have obviously done. I appreciate you sharing your story.

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Your recent article made me even more sad guilty than I already am! As I was raising my 2 daughters over 20 some years, there were times when I would be so exhausted, I wished that they would just go away and give me some piece. That wish was prophetic! From the years 2010 to 2019, I lost both of my beloved daughters to cancer. I loved them more than I have adjectives to explain, but during those tough times (my husband usually stayed out of any problem.) I did wish for piece and quiet. Now I have it and I feel more guilty after reading your story. My daughters were wonderful young ladies; healthy, educated, well on their respective ways in their careers, had many friends, compassionate and very loving. Why did this happen when I wished for just piece and quiet?

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Hi Donna, my experience is that there isn't a mother alive who didn't wish for peace while raising children. In fact, many secretly wish they would get sick themselves just to have an excuse for a break. Your wish is not uncommon.

The "we get what we expect" is not the same as your experience. You losing your daughters is a tragedy. You did not cause it. If it helps in any way, I will tell you that I believe children who die were never meant to live a long life. It's too complicated to explain here, but my investigation of life after death has convinced me of it.

I also have complete confidence that your wish for peace and quiet did not end their lives. If we had that power, many parents wouldn't survive after disciplining their children. Many people actually wish someone would die, and human beings simply don't have the power to cause cancer in another. The more you learn about life after death in your own afterlife investigation, you will come to know this is true.

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Love this story... great example. Thanks, Bob!

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Thanks Cheryl!

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Bob, great little article! Thanks for your writing skills; you always amaze me. Thank you for the laughs. It's so nice to read something funny. Sorry to laugh at your seeming misery. My husband has said and done similar things with trying to start machines.

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No, please laugh, Joan. I can laugh at myself. The story is all about that. Thank you!

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Awesome! "You got what you asked for," and it also happened right after you said "I surrender."

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Haha! There you go. Be careful what you ask for and surrender to.

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Hahaa , love your stories. And this one will make me think before i speak. Great reminder. Thank you.

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You're right, Francine. I do know better, but--as you can see--I walk right into it now and then.

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Your articles are always nice to read. They’re conversational and very reader friendly.

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Thank you, Eugene. I appreciate your kind words. You probably don't get a lot of snow in beautiful Tennessee, although I think you might have got some this year.

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Not much snow. But, a cold winter that burnt some plants and trees. All I can say is Burrr!

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I hear that.

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