What Happens to the Soul after Miscarriage or Stillbirth

Based on my investigation of the afterlife, this is what I learned about the souls of children who pass due to miscarriage or stillbirth.

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Unless you’ve experienced a miscarriage or stillbirth, it might be difficult to fully grasp the deep and profound loss mothers and fathers experience in this situation. This article addresses these unique losses while also adding insight into the soul of the child after death. Even if you haven’t known loss from these perspectives, I believe this article will provide you with a more rounded view of the afterlife.

These experiences deserve special consideration in a dialogue about the afterlife because they incite questions that are unique to the circumstance itself, which can haunt a parent for years if left unanswered. This can be useful information, especially considering women often feel responsible, although unnecessarily, in these circumstances. This is exactly the reason why I’ve written this article. I hope to give comfort and peace to the millions of moms and dads who lost their children before or soon after giving birth.

In any discussion of this sort, it’s important to remind you of my definitions of soul and spirit. The soul is that eternal aspect of us that forever remains in the spiritual dimension. The spirit is that part of our soul that experiences a human life by becoming the consciousness of a physical body.

You may recall from my article outlining soul and spirit, that the soul is detached from the emotions and dramas of the human life while the spirit is much closer to these and, therefore, quite attached.

With that primer, the soul, which is eternal, is not negatively affected by what happens due to a miscarriage or stillbirth. At most, the soul has a new experience from which it can learn and evolve.

In both a miscarriage and stillbirth, the soul is in control of this outcome. There are two possible ways that this can happen. One, miscarriage or stillbirth that is planned by the soul and, two, miscarriage or stillbirth that is not planned by the soul. Let me explain them one at a time.

Miscarriage or Stillbirth Planned by the Soul

One, the mother’s soul chose to have this experience, and the baby’s soul knew the miscarriage or stillbirth was planned from the beginning.

This could happen as an experience solely for the mother (and, in many cases, the father) that would lead to her (or their) spiritual growth. In this case, the mother’s soul would have the experience of losing a child, and the baby’s soul would have the experience of living a very brief life due to miscarriage or stillbirth.

This is a very emotional and difficult loss, a physical experience that the mother’s soul (and father’s soul) chose to know. Even though the miscarriage or stillbirth was planned by the parents’ souls, it is of no consequence to their human experience of loss; that is, they will deal with grief the same as anyone else.

The soul of the child, however, knew this was going to be the outcome. So the baby’s soul signed up for this lifetime (including this early death) knowing there are lessons that can only be known from this miscarriage or stillbirth experience.

In terms of the baby’s spirit (rather than soul), if you understand that the spirit’s afterlife experience is an extension of its physical lifetime, you know that the baby’s spirit (and, consequently, the soul too) learns and grows from this furtherance of his/her lifetime through this connection with his/her parents—a connection that lasts forever.

Said another way, the spirit of the baby will continue to be connected to the parents over the lifetime of those parents, and so the baby’s spirit will learn and grow from the ripple effect of this loss as expressed through the parents.

Miscarriage or Stillbirth Not Planned by the Soul

Two, the second possibility is that a soul had planned to experience life through that child, but for an infinite number of possible reasons, the plan changed and the miscarriage or stillbirth occurred. There are so many souls involved in a birth and life (mother, father, baby, siblings, grandparents, etc.) that plans do change at the last moment. In this case, the pre-birth plans of the baby’s soul have now been altered, so this soul’s experience is different than expected.

In this situation, the baby’s soul would be entirely accepting of the outcome. As mentioned, it still has an experience, just not the one originally expected. But the baby’s soul knew this was a potential. Souls are used to this in relation to physical experiences: things can go wrong and life can change in a second.

The baby’s soul naturally is accepting of the miscarriage or stillbirth because this soul will have many other opportunities to experience another life due to every soul’s eternal nature. Possibly, the soul will have another chance at life with those same parents at a future date. Yet the soul is also unattached from this possibility, leaving that choice up to the free will of the mother.

In this possible second scenario, there is also a spirit (rather than a soul) connected with the baby. So even though the spirit’s physical experience is very brief (regardless of what stage of the pregnancy the life ended), that spirit will always be connected to that mother (and father) spiritually. Again, as mentioned before, this spirit’s afterlife experience is an extension of its life experience.

While I may write an entire article on this in the future, I should add here that my investigation of life after death has led me to believe that the souls of children who die at any age never intended to live a long life into adulthood. So, in this case, the soul of the child who dies due to miscarriage or stillbirth never intended the live beyond childhood even if the original pre-birth plan did not plan the miscarriage or stillbirth.

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A True Story to Sum It All Up

I have a true story that might help you to understand the nature of souls and babies. About 20 years ago, my sister-in-law became pregnant with her first child. During her pregnancy, my father in spirit came through while I was talking with a medium on the phone, and my father began describing the personality and physical characteristics of the child. He described the child as a boy who was physically strong and athletic. He said the boy would excel in sports and be exercising all the time because he had so much physical energy to burn.

The reason I’m telling you this story is because the baby who was born turned out quite different than the one my father described. The child born turned out to be a boy, but he’s more of an intellectual. Physically, his demeanor is gentle and calm, and he’d prefer to curl up with a book than play baseball or hockey. Yet what makes this story interesting is that the boy my father described did arrive about two years later with the same parents, and he was exactly the boy my father illustrated through the medium.

Now I don’t claim to know exactly what happened here, but I speculate that the athletic boy’s soul and the intellectual boy’s soul decided to switch at some point during the pregnancy. There could be a million reasons why, but I can tell you for sure that the order that these boys came into this world has shaped their personalities and demeanors. They wouldn’t be who they are today if they showed up in this world in a different order. And, I believe, that these two souls had the omniscient forethought to know that my intellectual nephew needed to be the big brother of my athletic nephew for a host of reasons that I, their loving uncle, can tell you was absolute perfection in design.

So how might this have been decided? One possibility is that the soul of the intellectual boy might not have chosen his parents until after the soul of the athletic boy was already planning to be born to these parents. In this case, for some unknown reason, these two souls decided the intellectual boy should arrive in the physical world first. So the soul of the athletic boy agreed to wait two physical years (a mere blink of an eye in the spiritual realm) before beginning his physical life. Consequently, the intellectual boy arrived first with the plan for him to be a big brother.

This true story occurred in the first decade of my investigation of the afterlife, and what a wonderful physical-world example this became in order to apply what I was learning about the spiritual world.

If you have experienced a miscarriage or stillbirth, you have my sincere condolences. I know in reference to my own mother as well as close relatives and friends that this is a deep and profound loss that is every bit as devastating as any loss. I hope this article has been helpful to you.

With love and appreciation, I wish you comfort and inner peace,
Bob

PS, As a side story of interest, I will add that my parents lost one child shortly after birth (who was born before me) and lost one child shortly after birth (who was born after me). I learned that my father was a big fan of the TV show Maverick, so the first child was named Peter Bret and the second child was named Peter Bart, Bret and Bart being the names of the two main characters (brothers) in the Maverick series. As a kid knowing about my brothers, I used to feel grateful my parents didn’t name me Peter.

I can tell you that this has been an amusing fact to know when getting readings with mediums. You can probably imagine their confusion when confronted with the intuitive insight that I have two brothers in spirit, both named Peter. It was always both interesting and fun observing the mediums as they struggled to unravel the mystery of these two spirits before them. That story being true, I think it’s important for parents of miscarriage and stillbirth to know that both spirits have come through in dozens of my readings.

Bob Olson is the host of Afterlife TV, author of two books, Answers About The Afterlife and The Magic Mala, and creator of the directory of psychics and mediums, BestPsychicDirectory.com. His newest venture is Bob Olson Connect, where you can read Bob’s stories and articles before they become books. Click here to view free and paid options.

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