All the best, Bob! I look forward to any and all content and publications from you in the future. I've had an extremely busy year and haven't commented for a long time, but have enjoyed your articles nevertheless. Happy New Year, 10 days in, and Happy Everything Else, too! Reimar
First, I want to thank you for your vast knowledge and experience in the field of afterlife!! I have enjoyed hearing and reading all of your material. I first heard about you I believe from Facebook many, many years ago. I have learned so much. The afterlife has always been fascinating to me and especially now after losing my husband 4 years ago; we were married for 43 years. To say it has been very hard is an understatement to say in the least. I want to get some help from you if I may. I have been most fortunate to know the spirt of John (my husband) has been with me. From time to time, I have had signs that he is present. Especially in December 2023, at our daughter's wedding and that really warmed my heart. However there has not been any kind of sign since then. I have done as your article stated do, speak to him in my mind and ask for a sign to show me he is present. I did that a number of times, but sign has come. I feel abandoned. Can you offer any advice or information on this issue please? We could have a private email distribution if need be. Colleen Blodgett
I'm very sorry to hear about your husband's passing. Forty-three years is a long marriage, and I'm sure adjusting to life without him has been a challenge. I'll do my best to answer your question in a comment. Please know that I accept if my assumptions are in error, so I apologize if anything I suggest here is not in alignment with your circumstances or needs. This is the best I can offer without more information.
Let me begin by saying that our loved ones in spirit never abandon us. They are always a mere thought away--think of them, and they are with you. It's common that we get more signs soon after their passing. That is when we need them most. It's also fairly common that we get signs at meaningful moments, like your daughter's wedding.
However, the signs and signals naturally dissipate over time. The human experience of loss is significant for any soul's growth, and it wouldn't be as significant if we had the same relationship we had while they were here. As hard as it is, we are meant to learn how to live without the relationship we once had. And yes, we can have a new relationship, as I have taught in many of my articles and videos, but everyone who knows loss can attest that it is not as satisfying as having our loved ones here in the physical with us. I know you know all this, Colleen, but it's worth the reminder.
My advice is twofold. On the one hand, I think it's important to understand that when we don't feel the connection, it is not because our deceased loved ones are not close; it is because of us--we have lost the connection. By accepting that responsibility falls upon you to keep that connection open, it means taking the time to quiet your mind, perhaps spending time in nature, meditating, walking in solitude, prayer, Spirit Writing, or doing arts or crafts. Whatever helps you to connect with your spiritual essence, it's important that we do it regularly.
Life in the physical dimension has a way of pulling us away from our spiritual core. When other people tell us about their problems, we are pulled away when we try to help them. When the house, car, or our body needs repairs, we are pulled away. When other people have expectations of us, when a child or pet needs us, when work overloads us, and when relationships are strained, all these circumstances and more pull us away from our spiritual center, and we, consequently, feel disconnected from the Universe/God, our loved ones in spirit, our spirit guides, and our soul (whole/higher self).
So my first recommendation is to take the time you need to reconnect with your spiritual essence, and this will help you feel more connected to John.
On the other hand, since the experience of loss is--by its very nature--an experience of disconnection, the most valuable stage one can have in their spiritual growth is the stage of knowing. I will add a link to an article I wrote about knowing below.
Ultimately, the foundation of everything I have learned (and teach) is that we gain the most peace from knowing because we understand life and the afterlife from our spiritual core rather than our intellect. Knowing leads us to never feel abandoned by God, spirit guides, or loved ones in spirit. Belief, on the other hand, can make us feel abandoned because it is an intellectual process based on us accepting what other people have told us is true. Knowing establishes our own truth. (I realize it's too deep for a comment reply, so read the articles below.).
My advice, therefore, is to have more "personal experiences," which is the only path to knowing. I have a knowing that my loved ones are around me, yet yesterday I still had a reading with a medium because the holidays pulled me back into the physical and away from my spiritual core. That simple "personal experience" of connecting with my loved one through the medium brought me back to peace. If I needed more, I would have another past-life regression, life-between-lives regression, spirit contact through hypnosis, a session with a spirit artist, or even animal communication.
To sum up, from my experience and perspective, John has not abandoned you. He is right by your side. What you're feeling is likely just the natural process of being in your fourth year without your husband, and possibly being pulled away from your spiritual core because of the physical distractions of human life and personal relationships, especially during the holiday season.
So my recommendation is to take measures to reconnect with your inner peace through nature, walking, meditation, art, or prayer. Finally, if that isn't working, it is transformative to get a reading with a medium or spirit artist, have a past-life regression, or spirit contact through hypnosis.
I may be completely off the mark for you, Colleen, but basing my response on your comment alone, this is my best attempt to help you. I hope that something here resonates with you to ease your mind, give you some peace, and lead you to feeling a stronger connection with John and your other loved ones in spirit.
Dealing with loss, like all spiritual growth, is a process and not an event. You were wise to ask for assistance. We think we're doing well, and then we reach a new stage where we need something more. Four years after the passing of a husband of 43 years sounds about the right time for it. If I had to guess, more personal experiences would be best for you. You have my heartfelt compassion, and I send you a loving embrace to lift your spirits.
No hassle at all, Maureen. It's underway. It might take ten days, but I did my part. Thank you for your kind wishes. Happy New Year to you and Jerry and the rest of your family! I'll be in touch soon.
Thanks for all the great articles, & afterlife TV episodes. Loved them all. Good luck with all you are hoping to do in the future. Happy New Year to you & Melissa.
I had to get a new card issued due to fraudulent activity. So, don't worry about the refund. I am being super careful with the new one. Best to you I n all your new endeavors.
Hi Tina, that's an interesting circumstance. I believe that you will get your refund even if you got a new card from the same place (same bank or institution). Give it a couple weeks and check in with your credit card company. But I'll mail you a check if need be, so keep me updated. I'm sorry to hear you had some issues with fraudulent activity. Wishing you only joy and success in the New Year!
I appreciate that, Gary. I made the decision with some sadness in my heart, but I know it's the right move. I'll be in touch before you know it. Happy New Year!
I will miss your messages but I'm excited to see what God has in store for you. I will look forward to hearing about your new endeavors. Happy New Year!
Thank you, Shara! It's been a fun two years, but it's time to move forward. I'm so grateful to you and the others here for participating. Happy New Year!
Hi Marcy, no need for a printer. The refund will just go back to the credit card you paid with. As I wrote, I'm not disappearing. I'll still be saying hello in your inbox. Happy New Year!
You are an amazing example of kindness. I have enjoyed all of your tv episodes and articles for years now. Many blessings to you and family. May you have a happy, healthy New Year!
Bob, I am delighted to hear of your new decision to produce more of your After Life TV episodes. I have enjoyed all of them! Thank you also for writing the article on the holidays and the 10 things…. I have forwarded it to several people who are grieving this holiday. May many new and wonderful doors open for you and Melissa in 2025! ❤️
I love your episodes and look forward to more from you. This work is so important keep it coming. Thank you ❤️
All the best, Bob! I look forward to any and all content and publications from you in the future. I've had an extremely busy year and haven't commented for a long time, but have enjoyed your articles nevertheless. Happy New Year, 10 days in, and Happy Everything Else, too! Reimar
First, I want to thank you for your vast knowledge and experience in the field of afterlife!! I have enjoyed hearing and reading all of your material. I first heard about you I believe from Facebook many, many years ago. I have learned so much. The afterlife has always been fascinating to me and especially now after losing my husband 4 years ago; we were married for 43 years. To say it has been very hard is an understatement to say in the least. I want to get some help from you if I may. I have been most fortunate to know the spirt of John (my husband) has been with me. From time to time, I have had signs that he is present. Especially in December 2023, at our daughter's wedding and that really warmed my heart. However there has not been any kind of sign since then. I have done as your article stated do, speak to him in my mind and ask for a sign to show me he is present. I did that a number of times, but sign has come. I feel abandoned. Can you offer any advice or information on this issue please? We could have a private email distribution if need be. Colleen Blodgett
Hi Colleen,
I'm very sorry to hear about your husband's passing. Forty-three years is a long marriage, and I'm sure adjusting to life without him has been a challenge. I'll do my best to answer your question in a comment. Please know that I accept if my assumptions are in error, so I apologize if anything I suggest here is not in alignment with your circumstances or needs. This is the best I can offer without more information.
Let me begin by saying that our loved ones in spirit never abandon us. They are always a mere thought away--think of them, and they are with you. It's common that we get more signs soon after their passing. That is when we need them most. It's also fairly common that we get signs at meaningful moments, like your daughter's wedding.
However, the signs and signals naturally dissipate over time. The human experience of loss is significant for any soul's growth, and it wouldn't be as significant if we had the same relationship we had while they were here. As hard as it is, we are meant to learn how to live without the relationship we once had. And yes, we can have a new relationship, as I have taught in many of my articles and videos, but everyone who knows loss can attest that it is not as satisfying as having our loved ones here in the physical with us. I know you know all this, Colleen, but it's worth the reminder.
My advice is twofold. On the one hand, I think it's important to understand that when we don't feel the connection, it is not because our deceased loved ones are not close; it is because of us--we have lost the connection. By accepting that responsibility falls upon you to keep that connection open, it means taking the time to quiet your mind, perhaps spending time in nature, meditating, walking in solitude, prayer, Spirit Writing, or doing arts or crafts. Whatever helps you to connect with your spiritual essence, it's important that we do it regularly.
Life in the physical dimension has a way of pulling us away from our spiritual core. When other people tell us about their problems, we are pulled away when we try to help them. When the house, car, or our body needs repairs, we are pulled away. When other people have expectations of us, when a child or pet needs us, when work overloads us, and when relationships are strained, all these circumstances and more pull us away from our spiritual center, and we, consequently, feel disconnected from the Universe/God, our loved ones in spirit, our spirit guides, and our soul (whole/higher self).
So my first recommendation is to take the time you need to reconnect with your spiritual essence, and this will help you feel more connected to John.
On the other hand, since the experience of loss is--by its very nature--an experience of disconnection, the most valuable stage one can have in their spiritual growth is the stage of knowing. I will add a link to an article I wrote about knowing below.
Ultimately, the foundation of everything I have learned (and teach) is that we gain the most peace from knowing because we understand life and the afterlife from our spiritual core rather than our intellect. Knowing leads us to never feel abandoned by God, spirit guides, or loved ones in spirit. Belief, on the other hand, can make us feel abandoned because it is an intellectual process based on us accepting what other people have told us is true. Knowing establishes our own truth. (I realize it's too deep for a comment reply, so read the articles below.).
My advice, therefore, is to have more "personal experiences," which is the only path to knowing. I have a knowing that my loved ones are around me, yet yesterday I still had a reading with a medium because the holidays pulled me back into the physical and away from my spiritual core. That simple "personal experience" of connecting with my loved one through the medium brought me back to peace. If I needed more, I would have another past-life regression, life-between-lives regression, spirit contact through hypnosis, a session with a spirit artist, or even animal communication.
To sum up, from my experience and perspective, John has not abandoned you. He is right by your side. What you're feeling is likely just the natural process of being in your fourth year without your husband, and possibly being pulled away from your spiritual core because of the physical distractions of human life and personal relationships, especially during the holiday season.
So my recommendation is to take measures to reconnect with your inner peace through nature, walking, meditation, art, or prayer. Finally, if that isn't working, it is transformative to get a reading with a medium or spirit artist, have a past-life regression, or spirit contact through hypnosis.
I may be completely off the mark for you, Colleen, but basing my response on your comment alone, this is my best attempt to help you. I hope that something here resonates with you to ease your mind, give you some peace, and lead you to feeling a stronger connection with John and your other loved ones in spirit.
Dealing with loss, like all spiritual growth, is a process and not an event. You were wise to ask for assistance. We think we're doing well, and then we reach a new stage where we need something more. Four years after the passing of a husband of 43 years sounds about the right time for it. If I had to guess, more personal experiences would be best for you. You have my heartfelt compassion, and I send you a loving embrace to lift your spirits.
THE PATH TO KNOWING: https://bobolsonconnect.com/p/the-path-to-knowing-how-personal
MORE ABOUT PERSONAL VS VICARIOUS EXPERIENCES: https://bobolsonconnect.com/p/the-two-overlooked-categories-of
MY ARTICLE ON SPIRIT WRITING: https://bobolsonconnect.com/p/seven-steps-to-spirit-writing-spirit
For a reading with a medium: https://bestpsychicdirectory.com/medium-spirit-communicator
Can I still ask you a question from here?
Yes, Gail. Do you have a questions now?
Thanks Bob. If the refunding is a hassle, forget about it.
All the best in your new endeavors.
Wishing you & Melissa a happy, peaceful, healthy 2025!
No hassle at all, Maureen. It's underway. It might take ten days, but I did my part. Thank you for your kind wishes. Happy New Year to you and Jerry and the rest of your family! I'll be in touch soon.
Hey Bob-
Thanks for all the great articles, & afterlife TV episodes. Loved them all. Good luck with all you are hoping to do in the future. Happy New Year to you & Melissa.
Thanks Shari! And I have appreciated your participation and wonderful feedback. I'll be emailing again before you know it. Happy New Year, Shari!
Hi Bob
I had to get a new card issued due to fraudulent activity. So, don't worry about the refund. I am being super careful with the new one. Best to you I n all your new endeavors.
PS, I emailed you -- your refund is underway.
Hi Tina, that's an interesting circumstance. I believe that you will get your refund even if you got a new card from the same place (same bank or institution). Give it a couple weeks and check in with your credit card company. But I'll mail you a check if need be, so keep me updated. I'm sorry to hear you had some issues with fraudulent activity. Wishing you only joy and success in the New Year!
Loved your articles. Hope all goes well with the new endeavor.
I appreciate that, Gary. I made the decision with some sadness in my heart, but I know it's the right move. I'll be in touch before you know it. Happy New Year!
Best of luck in all your new adventures. I have enjoyed getting your emails.
Thanks again, Gail. I'll still be emailing, just not quite so often.
I will miss your messages but I'm excited to see what God has in store for you. I will look forward to hearing about your new endeavors. Happy New Year!
Thank you, Shara! It's been a fun two years, but it's time to move forward. I'm so grateful to you and the others here for participating. Happy New Year!
I am sorry to see this wkly message go but understand your decision.
If the refund needs to be printed I am out of luck as I don't have a printer
Hi Marcy, no need for a printer. The refund will just go back to the credit card you paid with. As I wrote, I'm not disappearing. I'll still be saying hello in your inbox. Happy New Year!
Not sure so you will have to check but I would think it would just go back to the card or bank you paid with.
Hi Gail, yes, the refund will go back to your card or bank account you paid with. It could take as much as 10 days, they tell me. Happy New Year!
You are an amazing example of kindness. I have enjoyed all of your tv episodes and articles for years now. Many blessings to you and family. May you have a happy, healthy New Year!
Hi Francine, what a nice thing to say. Thank you! Happy New Year to you and your family!
Bob, I am delighted to hear of your new decision to produce more of your After Life TV episodes. I have enjoyed all of them! Thank you also for writing the article on the holidays and the 10 things…. I have forwarded it to several people who are grieving this holiday. May many new and wonderful doors open for you and Melissa in 2025! ❤️
Hi Kathleen, I'm glad you liked that one and shared it. Thank you! Wishing you the best in 2025 as well. ♥️
Thank you and I can't wait for the new series!
Thanks, Jane. Happy New Year!
Than you Bob. Wishing you much success in 2025 getting your Afterlife Series going
Thanks, Randy! I'm looking forward to it. Happy 2025!
Thank you, Bob! Yes, your work is very valuable! I'm sending you and Melissa wishes for good health and much joy and fulfillment in the coming year!
Thank you so much, Anna! Melissa and I send you love and good wishes back to you. May we all know health, joy, fulfillment, and abundance in 2025 ♥️