Does My Loved One in Spirit Seek Justice for His Murder?

Does my loved one in spirit want me to solve her crime or get vengeance?

Bob Olson is the host of Afterlife TV, author of two books, Answers About The Afterlife and The Magic Mala, and creator of the reputable directory of psychics and mediums, BestPsychicDirectory.com.

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People often ask me, “Does my loved one in spirit want me to solve his or her crime?” This is another way of asking, “Does my loved one in spirit seek justice?” I want to respond to this question from a couple of different angles.

The big picture answer is that people in spirit don’t care if their crime is solved unless it will benefit the people they love on the Earth plane. Let me illustrate how this might happen using three examples.

Three Examples for Illustration

As my first example, if the police tell a mother that her daughter died by suicide, but she was actually murdered, the daughter might want her mother to know that she didn’t take her own life if suicide is considered a sin in her mother’s religion.

I’ll pause here for a moment to say that I wrote an in-depth article about suicide and the afterlife, so you might want to read it first if you haven’t already. Based on what I wrote in that article, the deceased daughter, in this example, only wants her mother to know she was murdered because her mother’s religious beliefs are causing unnecessary suffering and worry. Of course, the emotional turmoil that comes with a child being murdered holds its own suffering, but at least it’s based on what truly happened.

Let’s explore a second example. A man argues with his wife and walks around the block to release some steam and process the dispute. While walking, he is killed during a robbery, and his body is dumped in a river. His spirit may want his crime solved so that his wife doesn’t think he ran out on her or took his own life because of the argument.

My third example is a true story from my life. Early in my work with mediums, a deceased friend of mine came through in a reading, telling me that his overdose was, in fact, a murder. He was found dead in the bathtub of a hotel, having taken an excessive amount of heroin. According to information gained in the reading, the murder occurred in a tourist town (which was true), and since murder isn’t good for tourism, the police were pressured to conclude that the death was a suicide. The medium relayed that my friend had traveled to this area to purchase heroin for his girlfriend (not himself), which explained a lot since none of his friends, me included, knew he used heroin.

Spirit World Perspective

From a spirit world perspective, the only purpose of having one’s crime solved is to reduce the suffering of those still living. Otherwise, the truth of every crime will eventually be known since we’ll all find out what happened once we die and return to the hereafter.

Since there is no concept of time in the afterlife, people in spirit don’t feel they must wait long for their loved ones to learn the truth about their crimes. So, there’s no rush for the truth to be known. Most spirits say it’s a mere blink of an eye before all their loved ones are with them again on the other side.

Nonetheless, time is real for those left behind, so dealing with a deceased loved one’s murder, suicide, or overdose can be a lifelong process. People in spirit understand this and want to save us any unnecessary suffering.

Consequently, the only reason your deceased loved one might want their crime solved is because it will reduce the suffering of a loved one left behind. As noted, this is not necessarily going to remove the suffering. It often merely exchanges it for a different set of circumstances. Still, at least the anguish is related to what truly happened, not an erroneous conclusion.

Purpose and Experience

Given my experiences with the afterlife, I lean toward trusting that we get the experience we are meant to have. If, in the first example, the religious mother believes her daughter took her own life, that may serve the mother spiritually. If she eventually learns that her daughter was murdered, the time she thought her daughter’s death was a suicide holds meaning and lessons for her. By dealing with her daughter’s suicide and later learning it was murder, she has a unique experience that teaches the mother insights that might not be possible in any other way.

The woman whose husband was murdered during a robbery will also have a distinctive experience while wondering if her husband left her due to the argument. She will have time to ponder whether he walked away or took his life. If she eventually learns that he was murdered, she will have new experiences due to this new reality and in response to what she thought or said when she believed he left her by choice.

I can assure you that the information about my friend’s death conveyed by the medium held several lessons for me. First, I wasn’t sure that the medium was giving me accurate information. Second, I wasn’t sure if I should share it with anyone. Third, after first dealing with the news that my friend had a) taken heroin and b) overdosed from it, I now had to wrap my mind and emotional response around the possibility that none of this was true and he had, instead, been murdered (set up to look like an overdose). I’ll conclude that there was a lot there for me to process, and I learned a lot from the experience.

Unsolved Crimes Are an Experience in Themselves

It helps to keep in mind that sometimes, the reason a crime goes unsolved is because it’s an experience in itself. Said another way, a crime might be left unsolved because it serves the pre-birth plans of the people affected. Because not knowing if your loved one took her own life or was murdered is a uniquely challenging human experience.

Each possibility holds a different meaning to the surviving loved ones. They don’t know what to think or how to deal with the loss when the mystery is left unsolved, yet this alone is an experience that a soul might choose to know. If so, the mystery might go unsolved forever, or the mystery might eventually be solved, depending upon the soul’s desires or even the growth of those involved during the process.

What About Vengeance?

Some people wonder if their loved one in spirit seeks vengeance. Vengeance is a human concept that does not exist in the afterlife. It holds a lower energy vibration, much like jealousy, hatred, and fear. Such negative thoughts are impossible for spirits living in the light of the afterlife. Thus, no person in spirit would ever desire it.

People in spirit know only love. As a result, they believe in the idea of turning the other cheek. They know that two wrongs do not make a right, and therefore, two acts of hatred can never make an act of love. So vengeance is something they never desire. Instead, they prefer forgiveness. Forgiveness isn’t easy for many people, but that’s what spiritual growth is all about.

As I suspect you know, forgiveness is less about letting the other person off the hook than relieving yourself of suffering. When you carry the weight of blaming someone with contempt, it is your burden. But when you release them of that blame and contempt, you free yourself from holding that negative energy inside you, which raises your overall vibration of love.

Projecting Our Human Qualities onto Spirits

Many of the questions we have about life after death stem from us projecting human qualities onto spirits. We would want a particular outcome, so we believe our loved ones in spirit want it, too.

It can be helpful to remind ourselves that we live in a dimension where death is inevitable, tragedy is allowed to exist, and suffering is on equal footing with joy, meaning both are possible. Related to these realities, we live in a dimension where evil can exist alongside love, compassion, and empathy. In fact, they are interrelated, given that love, compassion, and empathy are common responses to evil acts.

Our loved ones in spirit exist in a dimension where there is no evil, no crime, no death, and no time or even space. They only know love. Everything exists in the present moment. Peace is their natural state of being.

What Our Loved Ones in Spirit Want from Us

Many of our questions about the afterlife ask what our loved ones in spirit want from us. Does she want an expensive gravestone? Does he want me to spread his ashes? Would my parents want me to spend my inheritance on education or a new home? Do they want justice or vengeance?

Despite all the possibilities, they don’t want or need anything from us except for us to live a life of happiness, peace, and love.

I know many people fear Ouija boards for reasons that have more to do with books and movies than reality. I don’t fear any method of spirit communication, so I’ve experimented with these spirit boards to discover what I might learn. After a dear friend’s passing, his wife and daughter visited Melissa and me. His daughter asked if we had a Ouija board, so we dusted it off and asked her father a few questions. The final question the wife and daughter asked was, “What do you want or need from us?”

His answer popped into my mind as soon as they asked the question. Not wanting to influence the response on the board, I took my fingers off the planchette and waited to see what response was spelled out. As the planchette moved across seven letters, I was pleased to see it was the exact answer I heard in my head: Be Happy.

Thanks for reading. Please say hello in the comments section and let me know if you like this style of article using the like ♡ button.

With love,
Bob

PS, Here’s a beautiful autumn scene Melissa captured yesterday as we were walking our dogs. The sun was setting yet still illuminating the trees.

Bob Olson is the host of Afterlife TV, author of two books, Answers About The Afterlife and The Magic Mala, and creator of the reputable directory of psychics and mediums, BestPsychicDirectory.com. His newest venture is Bob Olson Connect, where you can read Bob’s articles before they become books.

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